Relationship Difficulties

People bring different perspectives, talents and strengths to a relationship. You might appreciate some of the things your partner has to offer – great cooking, their sense of humour, good sex, getting on well with your family and friends – but you might not like their taste in music, the time they spend on technology or the fact they get stressed easily.

Some conflict in relationships is inevitable, but there are ways to handle it so it is not destructive to you individually or as a couple.

There is no one, single cause for relationship problems, but a number of factors can play a part.

Past experiences – A person’s family and upbringing can play an important role in his or her future relationships. People whose parents divorced, seeing high levels of conflict during childhood and adolescence or experiencing abuse in the early years has been linked to relationship problems later in life.

Life transitions and stress – Life transitions, such as moving from living together to being married, having a baby, children leaving home, and moving into retirement can put strain on a relationship, and the couple can start feeling less ‘connected’ to one another. Personal stress, work problems or financial difficulties, difficulties with in-laws or extended family, or balancing the needs of ageing parents with the needs of caring for one’s own children can spill over into the relationship and increase stress between couples.

How people think – The way people think about themselves, their partner and their relationship is an important factor in relationship outcomes. Couples experiencing problems can start to blame each other and see each other as the cause of arguments and difficulties, viewing their partner’s behaviour as selfish and intentional. Seeing the relationship or the other person through a negative ‘lens’ can lead to placing more weight on negative events than on the positives, when they occur. This pattern can lead to more conflict or withdrawal.

Behavioural factors – Particular patterns of behaviour can be important signs that a relationship is at risk. Interactions that include disrespect, defensiveness, criticism, or ‘stonewalling’ (putting up a barrier to communication) are signs that a relationship is in crisis

Who is this service for?

  • You’re wanting to leave a relationship or your partner has told you they are leaving
  • You have recurring arguments about the same issues that are never resolved
  • You feel dissatisfied and unhappy
  • You have sex less often, or it isn’t what it used to be
  • One partner spends increasing time on interests and activities outside the relationship
  • There is a loss of warmth and friendliness in the relationship, one or both of you speak of no longer being in love
  • You feel tired and less able to meet responsibilities at work and at home
  • Arguments about the children continue
  • One of you has an addiction problem that is affecting the relationship.

How we can help you...

Relationships can become stronger if partners can talk about differences and stress as a normal part of their relationship. Conflict can often be resolved and serious matters dealt with through respectful communication and a bit of give and take. Let us help you with:

  • Effective communication skills
  • Stress management
  • Anger management
  • Emotion processing
  • Improved sleep
  • Identifying triggers/schemas
  • Behaviour management

We have a number of Psychologists at Thriving Minds Psychology Clinic skilled at working with individuals and couples with relationship difficulties. If you would like to arrange an appointment, you can call us on P: 0428 088 671 and our friendly team will ensure to book you with a Psychologist with the best experience for you.

Are you ready to take the next step?

We are dedicated to redefining your experience of therapy. Our client support team is available to support you with questions and enquiries. Booking your appointment is easy, call us on 0428 088 671 or book online by following the link below